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   Tinker ☀️ (tinker@infosec.exchange)'s status on Thursday, 20-Mar-2025 00:14:08 JST Tinker ☀️

   • Just a Cat

   @catzilla - Finding people that vibe like this and making them my friends and me being their friends is now core to my life.

   I've learned to identify folks that dont act like this and to communicate with them in their own language... but I limit those interactions to purely professional.

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     Tinker ☀️ (tinker@infosec.exchange)'s status on Thursday, 20-Mar-2025 00:14:03 JST Tinker ☀️

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     • Simon Dassow
     • Just a Cat

     @simondassow @catzilla - Oh, it's a methodical run book at this point:

     Neurodivergent Gain Friends Method

     - Join activity groups that align with my interests (examples, local Hacker Meetup, Local Food Rescue, Local Food Bank, Local Library Book Club, etc)
     - Talk to people there as myself, completely unmasked. (This culls the sample size quite a bit - Folks self select to not hang out with me. Makes my job a LOT easier.)
     - Of those that remain, note the ones that infodump and move them into acquaintance tag.
     - Continue to spend time with acquaintances and if we vibe inter-personally, hang out with them more often (either at interest group, or outside of interest group... say another interest group)
     - After enough time, move from acquaintance tag to friend tag. Exchange numbers on Signal, send each other memes and videos throughout the day.
     - After having three or four friends, bring all of them together (say at an interest group meeting) and see if they vibe with each other. Now we're a friend group.

     If at any time you exhaust your pool, find new inputs and increase your pool again. Run through run book. Rinse / repeat.

     I now have a close friend group of five people in my immediate town.

     We are ride or die.

     I went through an input sampling of about 250 people. I have a lot of acquaintances still. They're chill. I like them and they like me.

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     Simon Dassow (simondassow@masto.ai)'s status on Thursday, 20-Mar-2025 00:14:08 JST Simon Dassow

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     • Just a Cat

     @tinker @catzilla

     Rich Felker repeated this.