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   sj_zero (sj_zero@social.fbxl.net)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Feb-2025 19:45:20 JST sj_zero
   In trying to imagine the future for my novel, I really had to dial down the hypersexuality we see today. Instead of treating every woman like she's potentially going to make love to you right this second, the idea is you need to control yourself, but there's other parts of life where things are much less repressed.
   
   Today men and women can barely talk because the hypersexualization has made it so awkward. Hell -- men and other men can barely talk because the hypersexualization has made it so awkward nobody wants to be accused of "the gay", and that's not just from stereotypical homophobes -- the lgbt community has done everything in their power to re frame every single male relationship over the past 8000 years of recorded history as actually being gay lovers.
   
   So of course basically everyone is walking on eggshells among pretty much everyone because nobody wants to be accused of hitting on someone they don’t want to. With a little self-control, people could actually chill it out so they only hit on people they’re trying to hit on and we could have social connections again. It turns out we humans require social connections other than trying to bang like a bunch of bonobos on MDMA, or we get super depressed... like a bunch of bonobos after an MDMA bender.
   
   The way to actually do that is to have social rituals that separate out this piece of your life. So you can have a discussion with someone and if they aren’t initiating the social rituals, you’re safe to just treat them like another human being, as opposed to a potential romantic partner at all times.
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     Inscius (inscius@noauthority.social)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Feb-2025 19:45:18 JST Inscius

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     BowserNoodle ☦️ (bowsacnoodle@poa.st)'s status on Wednesday, 26-Feb-2025 21:29:53 JST BowserNoodle ☦️

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     @sj_zero >The way to actually do that is to have social rituals that separate out this piece of your life. So you can have a discussion with someone and if they aren’t initiating the social rituals, you’re safe to just treat them like another human being
     This is why I like the return of forbidden language. Hearing a guy at work call someone a "gay retard" is a signal that he's a real person. Obviously the person is neither gay nor retarded, so the signalling works. When people joke that the return of those words is a sign that "nature is healing", they're only half joking. Also noteworthy that those were both 90s slang terms, a safe step back to before everything went off the rails.