This is difficult for the person #subverted by atomizing hyper-#individualism to wrap their heads around, but exceptions do not disprove rules. And wishful thinking doesn't make black neighborhoods or countries any safer or desirable for whites.

To said "mere individual":

You are not just an individual. You are a son or daughter, a husband or wife, a father or mother. You are a member of your family, and the family unit matters. For your good and the good of society.
You are a member of a tribe, a nation. That is a larger version of the family and also matters.
You are inescapably a member of your race, perhaps the largest kinship group you can define, and no matter how much you wish it not to be the case, that matters. Because no matter how much YOU try and escape it, you are and always will be part of a small, self-deluding and isolating minority. You will ALWAYS be targetted by the majority of other races based on YOUR race. That is a part of life.
Whether you're concious of it or not, your indoctrinated world view leads to martyrdom, and there is nothing sacred about it.
The hostile out-groups who pushed it onto you, encouraged it WANT you to perish.
And deep down you know it's wrong.

It is why, despite talking a good race blindness, "abolish whiteness good ally" #Progressive you try to be, you still feel safer in a white neighborhood.
It is why in a room where you're the only white you feel isolated. It is why in a room of only a few whites you gravitate towards each other. Despite everything, healthy instinct and nature still cannot be fully ignored.

This all said before one even needs to touch upon the real, measurable differences between races.
This isn't hate. This isn't ignoring the "good" people that exists in other races, or the bad people who exist within ours. It's accepting the simple, pure truth.

You are your race, and it matters.