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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:15:00 JST Adrianna Tan

   Wondering about the relationship between #aphantasia and grief.

   If I can’t make pictures in my head, I can’t hold the images of anyone I love and am griefing in my head (it’s true). (I have aphantasia and I have no images in my head at all)

   I always thought that movie or TV depictions of grief of people popping up in people’s lives was like, TV depiction of ghosts, not grief.

   I can’t picture anyone, not even my own face, not my wife’s, not my late dog (who I love and grief, but not in a visual way).

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:16:05 JST Adrianna Tan

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     Maybe it’s a blessing? Out of sight, out of mind, quite literally for me!

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:18:21 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • May Likes Toronto

     @mayintoronto words. Everybtigid words to me

     I was telling my wife it’s like the difference between reading a description of a place or person in a bunch of words, not seeing it on a screen. Smell and sound can evoke memories for me much more but it’s words first

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     May Likes Toronto (mayintoronto@beige.party)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:18:23 JST May Likes Toronto

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     @skinnylatte Curious, what do you think of when you think of the concept of say, your mom: Sounds? Smell? Words?

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:36:07 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Brian Boyer

     @brianboyer yep. Also why I take lots of photos

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     Brian Boyer (brianboyer@mastodon.social)'s status on Friday, 17-Jan-2025 13:36:08 JST Brian Boyer

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     @skinnylatte I have found it to be positive. But also looking at old photographs hits like a ton of bricks.