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   Human Ghostwriter (hg@beige.party)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 07:54:21 JST Human Ghostwriter

   My wife has covid again (she's on day 5), and once more I have managed to get through without any noticeable or detectable infection.

   I fight pretty hard against the "man with a cold" stereotype because my friends and family are pretty heartless about weakness (It's been four and a half years and people still make fun of me for almost fainting when my wife gave birth to our son - I got a fainting goat figurine for Christmas). And covid sucks and hits my wife really hard. But it's been hard to functionally single-parent two kids for the last five days. I feel like I'm disappointing everyone, and I'm getting very upset with myself for not doing more.

   I hope my wife is OK. The first time she got the 'rona, she lost the ability to breath cold (40F or less) air, so now we basically spend half the year indoors. Clearly, she has the harder time of all of this, so I'm not complaining that she's sick. I'm just feeling lost and at loose ends, like I'm holding things together and feeling terrible for doing a substandard job.

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 07:54:19 JST Rocketman

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     @HG Father of four here, chiming in with the other responses. (My wife’s been sick for a week, doing better now.)

     You’re doing a very tough job right now. Adjust your expectations on yourself: your priority must now be to remain functional.

     Make sure your kids get enough to eat, and have some structure in their day. Everything else can wait. Get some rest.

     Anyone give you bullshit about anything? They can help, or they can fuck right off.

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Thursday, 02-Jan-2025 07:55:36 JST Rocketman

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     @HG uh, also, “substandard job”? Whose standards are those?

     Do well by your family. Nothing else matters.