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   ideogram (ideogram@social.coop)'s status on Sunday, 22-Dec-2024 15:20:28 JST ideogram

   I realised today that the reason I always refuse when somebody offers to buy me a cup of coffee at work is because I don't understand the NT rules of if I am supposed to offer to buy them one in return in the future or not and when that would have to happen by etc.

   #Autism #autistic #neurodiverse @actuallyautistic #AutisticBurnout #ActuallyAutistic

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Sunday, 22-Dec-2024 15:20:26 JST Miakoda

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     @actuallyautistic

     I've decided to go with the "Fuck NT rules" path. If one offers me something, and I want it, I'm not going to try to decode if they are "being polite". Don't offer me shit you don't want to share.

     If I feel like buying someone coffee or food, either it's on MY whim, or if it's repayment, it's cause it was discussed beforehand.

     I'm just done with appeasing allistic bullshit just to catch flak as soon as I need the tiniest accommodation or assist.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Sunday, 22-Dec-2024 15:21:48 JST Miakoda

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     @actuallyautistic

     Unwritten social rules nobody will actually tell me, but they sure as fuck will make it clear they're mad I didn't catch it?
     Yeah Nah, fucking unsubscribing from that bullshit!