@BathysphereHat Also, like, do people not understand that kink is sometimes *by construction* problematic? How many rape fantasies and cnc kinks come down to using nonconsent as a deniable way of enjoying sex even given all the guilt society places on it?
If someone trans doesn't see why force* kinks might be useful kink for dealing with feelings that society largely shuns, I don't know what to tell them.