One person who really changed my life: KC Davis from StruggleCare.
She has a video over there called 'how to do laundry when you're depressed", and her book 'How to Keep House While Drowning'
Until I came across her work, I'd never seen or heard anyone say 'cleanliness is not a morality issue' and then provide very clear information on how to be gentle with yourself.
I found her through an ADHD support group but honestly I think everyone should hear her