@j12i
Good question. I'm not sure I do. But I think it helps to acknowledge that we're descended from a long line of expansionists that rolled over whatever was there beforehand. There are powerful tendencies left in us by our history and they will not be easy to redirect.
I like the way you reframe the problem to "favourite bar" rather than "competing kingdoms" which is one way to trigger a different pattern of reactions.
@clarity