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   A.R. Moxon, Verified Duck ? (juliusgoat@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 20-Nov-2024 21:36:47 JST A.R. Moxon, Verified Duck ?

   In this coming age of fascism, it's going to be just as important to discover safe people as it is to discover unsafe people.

   Three simple principles I think may work.

   1) When someone hurts you, tell them. See how they react. They'll tell you who they are.

   https://www.the-reframe.com/rules-of-engagement/

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     2) When somebody seems too unsafe to trust with your pain, set a boundary. If somebody has proved themselves less safe than you thought, but you still think it's safe to do so, tell them that you're going to have to withdraw in some way from them. See how they react. They'll tell you who they are.

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     3) When somebody seems too unsafe to trust with your boundaries, leave. If it's not safe to tell them, or you're not sure if its safe, withdraw from them without telling them. See how they react. They'll tell you who they are.

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     Let's say we're on the subway in rush hour and it's a little crowded on the car, and I step on your toes. Say you tell me about it in this sort of fashion: "Ow!" or "Youch!" or "Gadfreys! My toes!"

     How do I react?

     Full Essay: https://www.the-reframe.com/rules-of-engagement/