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   Jules (afewbugs@social.coop)'s status on Saturday, 09-Nov-2024 20:20:49 JST Jules

   I don't have anything practical to offer yet, but one thing I have learned over four decades on this planet is that people deal with awful things in two different ways and each group's strategy is unhelpful to the other. One type of people need to focus on the positives to avoid despair, to look for the remaining points of light and the actions they can take now, because focussing on the bad stuff paralyses them and means they can't do anything about it.

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     Jules (afewbugs@social.coop)'s status on Saturday, 09-Nov-2024 20:20:47 JST Jules

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     The trouble is when the two groups react to the same things and start talking to each other. The people who need to focus on the bad stuff feel the people who need the positive aren't taking things seriously enough or aren't sufficiently aware of them. The people who need the positive stuff feel the ones who need the negative stuff are just trying to bring everyone down and paralyse them into inaction. Neither group feels heard or taken seriously by the other.

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     Jules (afewbugs@social.coop)'s status on Saturday, 09-Nov-2024 20:20:48 JST Jules

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     One group needs to focus on and talk about how fucked everything is, and gets strength and solidarity and validation from talking about how awful things are with other members of the group of people who feel the same.

     Minoru Saba repeated this.