Conversation

imagine ur a 9-13 yr old boy or someone that's interpolated as one by society, and you have access to the internet and you're constantly hearing about war of the sexes bullshit like "all men are x." u think it matters that you have all this feminist theory context around it? yeah, I'm sure lil' "Timmy" (if that is indeed whom they are) was reading feminist theory in the womb and is all caught up on how to contextualize the shit "he" hears.

I grew up with my grandma bashing men all the time around me since I was little and presumably seen as a boy. its clear to me what people were implicitly saying by bashing men as a whole right in front of me, while telling me its who I am and will be: you're going to grow up to be a terrible person. It's why while I'm not going to stop ya, as, being an adult, I have more context to understand where that comes from and know it says more about the person saying it and their experiences than it does about me (and also I have the new benefit in *not living under that signifier in certain spaces*), I am definitely gonna ignore and not engage in it. if you're hoping to bond with me by pulling the war of the sexes bs, outside of saying something legitimately funny or insightful, it's not gonna happen. I'm gonna sit there and stare at you the same way I'd stare at somebody making an awkward racial joke that doesn't land, and move on to more important conversations like why you keep centering men when trying to be a "girl's girl."