This is so frustrating. Queer people on Fedi are very clear what they mean when they talk about transphobia.
Doxing. Deadnaming. Misgendering. Death threats. Explicit invocation of hate crimes targetting queer people.
Publicly listing, and leading harassment campaigns against small instances.
We're not talking about microaggressions, right? We're not talking about an awkward person being a little pushy in the replies.
This is all very clear, very objective transphobia.