I really don't want to get into policing people's queerness, but I think trans people like me (and WelshPixie) have an obligation to understand that society is not really trying to cause harm to us in particular.
Yes, it hurts when transphobes say transphobic things that invalidate you.
I get and experience the discomfort of being seen as a gender that doesn't really fit.
But me and WP are not meaningfully being targeted or in danger in an actual, tangible way.