Still looking for a pillow. Fortunately, I'm using an old favourite pillow that had sunk in. Padding it with towels got it to the right loft. I'm having good sleeps with it, & has enabled me to slow down the search. I bought a new pillow yesterday but it was again too firm. It's annoying because it was good in the store. Urgh. But memory foam is said to soften after a week, and I remember that my latex mattress took about a week to soften too. So I have hope for this one ;D