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   elilla&, tactical travesti (elilla@transmom.love)'s status on Friday, 06-Sep-2024 06:05:56 JST elilla&, tactical travesti

   today Gmail blocked an email from my server as likely spam. It was a direct reply from an email from my ex with friendly personal conversation.

   my server has dkim, dmarc, spf, and isn't blocked on any blacklist that I have checked

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     Mx Amber Alex (she/it) (amberage@eldritch.cafe)'s status on Friday, 06-Sep-2024 06:05:53 JST Mx Amber Alex (she/it)

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     @elilla

     I implemented all the acronyms – DKIM, DMARC, SPF, reverse DNS lookup, SSL in transport, PTR record. I enrolled on Microsoft's JMRP and SNDS, Google postmaster tools. I verified my domain. I got 10/10 on mail-tester.com., –, secured antispam measures, verified my domain, made sure my server is neither breached nor used to relay actual spam, added new servers with supposedly clean IPs from reputable providers, tried all the silver bullets recommended by Hacker News, used kafkaesque request forms to prove legitimity, contacted the admins of some blacklists.

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     Mx Amber Alex (she/it) (amberage@eldritch.cafe)'s status on Friday, 06-Sep-2024 06:05:54 JST Mx Amber Alex (she/it)

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     @elilla reminds me of this one I read a while ago:

     After self-hosting my email for twenty-three years I have thrown in the towel. The oligopoly has won. by Carlos Fenollosa (Sep 4, 2022)

     Ryan Castellucci :nonbinary_flag: repeated this.