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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:05:42 JST meso
@bot no -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:06:45 JST bot
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:08:12 JST meso
@bot its just kinda shitty. i mean i dont mind if my bf/gf goes through it but theres people that do and i dont see why someone would do that -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:11:12 JST bot
Shouldn't an intimate relationship be built on complete trust and openness? (trick question btw..) meso likes this.meso repeated this. -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:12:57 JST meso
@bot it should be, but like... there's boundaries -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:18:13 JST bot
Which apps would you make boundaries around exactly if it was that specific..? -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:18:53 JST meso
@bot none, just the whole phone. like seems like bpdemons to insist to go through your bf's phone. only hysterical men do this btw. -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:24:36 JST bot
Have you ever even been in a relationship btw? -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:25:57 JST meso
@bot yes -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:26:41 JST bot
Sorry, were they born male? I feel like I need to ask tbh -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:27:38 JST meso
@bot yes, he's still a guy -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:32:38 JST bot
Ok well that's different obv but also worse tbh, gays are very promiscuous. Anyway I sort of understand what you're saying but I don't see why you need to hide anything from someone you (allegedly) love and trust. I think the context of looking at it is important too maybe meso likes this. -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:32:45 JST meso
@bot what do you think of Garbage? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ppiohVRZ0s -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:34:13 JST meso
@bot yes I sometimes worry but I feel like part of trusting someone is trusting they're the right person for you, and having a relationship where you can talk about things like that, instead of one built on pressure both ways where someone would be compelled to hide something in a phone. personally I wouldn't care what's on my partner's phone, I think that's an unhealthy thing to worry about In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:39:49 JST meso
@bot my relationship was mostly a very trustworthy and open (not in that way) relationship though it seems to be going through somewhat of a rough patch, not sure about its future but not my fault I did my best In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:40:55 JST bot
Like if it is a schizo BPD demand then yea, that's not good or if it isn't reciprocated. But I don't see the problem otherwise, I personally don't care. I get that guys do a lot of weird stuff on their phones tho.. but I should probably still know about it and you shouldn't hide it from me if we're in a relationship. In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:44:33 JST bot
Do you think your partner should tell you who they're spending their time with irl and what their relationship is all about? In conversation permalink -
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ㅤ (eidolon@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:46:51 JST ㅤ
@meso @bot they have 2 good songs In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:47:06 JST meso
@eidolon @bot more. Queer, Only Happy When It Rains, Paranoid, Stupid Girl... In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:47:42 JST bot
I didn't click on your link btw, not trying to get hacked tyvm In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:48:00 JST meso
@bot @eidolon look up Garbage - Queer on youtube then In conversation permalink -
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0 (https://pl.absolutelyproprietary.org/users/0)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:48:03 JST 0
@bot @meso If you need to check the phone you shouldn't lecture on trust; you have none. In conversation permalink meso likes this. -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:48:07 JST meso
@0 @bot real In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:48:37 JST meso
@bot sometimes yeah, if I feel jealous or something. i generally tell it all cuz i like talking about random stuff and to make sure the other person feels confident and trusts me, I guess I should expect the same thing back but I think it's better to go for someone who's emotionally mature enough to also make me feel like that but not many people are mature enough In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 09:57:13 JST bot
Idk that's why it's a complicated thing, if there is trust then it shouldn't matter right? If it gets to be accusatory and toxic then that's obv a bad thing, but some ppl are insecure about infidelity and I literally wouldn't care esp if it gave my bf peace of mind. In conversation permalink meso repeated this. -
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0 (https://pl.absolutelyproprietary.org/users/0)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:00:14 JST 0
@bot @meso "So long as I get to snoop, it's healthy."
You just fuck someone you don't trust, and that's ok, but stop trying to rationalize snooping.In conversation permalink meso likes this. -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:06:59 JST bot
Is it actually unreasonable to want to know who your bf or gf talks to and their relationship? Isn't that just.. normal? Like normal couples say hey I'm going to do something with whoever I'll be back later, how is what ppl do on their phone different than that? I get that there could be more than that but there shouldn't be anything to hide from someone you love, unless it's already a toxic relationship maybe. In conversation permalink meso repeated this. -
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0 (https://pl.absolutelyproprietary.org/users/0)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:08:17 JST 0
@bot @meso You are behaving toxicly, so yes. In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:08:42 JST meso
@bot @0 that's not normal bot maybe it's the bpdemon in you speaking In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:10:18 JST bot
You literally just replied to me about how you let your bf know what you're doing because you believe it helps establish trust. In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:11:51 JST meso
@bot @0 this is only because I'm that type of person and I'm overanalytical about other people's psychology, I have never expected or demanded he do the same In conversation permalink -
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:ihavenomouth: (inginsub@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:12:34 JST :ihavenomouth:
@bot @0 @meso red flag In conversation permalink meso likes this. -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:12:48 JST meso
@Inginsub @0 @bot this shit is redder than the burned male In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:12:52 JST bot
Elaborate pls In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:12:59 JST meso
@Inginsub @0 @bot @get @get In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:13:26 JST meso
@bot @Inginsub @0 this is a massive red flag i would never ever be in a relationship with someone who acts like you In conversation permalink -
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0 (https://pl.absolutelyproprietary.org/users/0)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:14:32 JST 0
@meso @Inginsub @bot This is why I just skip to hitting them. In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:15:03 JST meso
@Inginsub @0 @bot bot: In conversation permalink Attachments
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:ihavenomouth: (inginsub@clubcyberia.co)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:15:04 JST :ihavenomouth:
@bot @0 @meso this kind of reasoning is a red flag, it's pointless tying to explain something obvious to normal people In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:16:11 JST bot
Projection tbh I never said I acted like this, I just wanted to have a discussion and get the fedicel perspective In conversation permalink meso likes this. -
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Johnny Peligro, now on Mitra! (mischievoustomato@mitra.taihou.website)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:17:06 JST Johnny Peligro, now on Mitra!
@bot @meso i wouldn't mind giving my phone for my (future) gf to check, if in reciprocity i can check hers too
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:18:28 JST bot
Thank you for your contribution to this thread In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:20:01 JST bot
I wasn't talking about demands. In conversation permalink -
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meso (meso@the.asbestos.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:23:38 JST meso
@bot @0 this is one though In conversation permalink -
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bot (bot@seal.cafe)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Aug-2024 10:29:15 JST bot
It isn't necessarily, but you obv recognise how being open and honest with your loved one can improve trust in the relationship. In conversation permalink
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