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   goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 18:29:26 JST goatsarah

   Apropos of a conversation on Reddit, the British etiquette of offering tea/coffee three times, and refusing on the first two, thus:

   Can I get you a tea or coffee?

   Oh, no thank you.

   You sure?

   Yes, I'm good.

   I'm making one anyway.

   Oh go on then.

   Now here's the thing: most of my social circle are geeks with some type of neurodiversity going on, and one thing we value is a straight bloody answer.

   So it will go something like this:

   Can I get you a tea or coffee?

   Oh, no thank you.

   OK.

   I wonder how many thirsty tradespeople I've annoyed in my life?

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 18:44:54 JST goatsarah

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     • Tathar is dragons! (public)

     @Tathar My wife’s grandparents were like this when they were alive. Persuading them you really meant “no” to anything was like trench-sodding-warfare.

     I found it very tedious.

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     Tathar is dragons! (public) (tathar@dragonchat.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 18:44:55 JST Tathar is dragons! (public)

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     @goatsarah I don't really believe the "three times" etiquette is real. If it was, you'd notice a lot more people offering it to you three times before they accept the answer.

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 18:50:38 JST goatsarah

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     • Tathar is dragons! (public)
     @Tathar Might be working class coded as well.
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     Tathar is dragons! (public) (tathar@dragonchat.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 18:50:39 JST Tathar is dragons! (public)

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     @goatsarah yeah, it could have been an older thing that doesn't apply anymore

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     Ailbhe (ailbhe@mendeddrum.org)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 19:05:49 JST Ailbhe

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     @goatsarah the ones around here seem to be trained to answer very unambiguously.

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     andy (andy@friendica.hubup.pro)'s status on Wednesday, 21-Aug-2024 19:06:57 JST andy

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     I wonder what Mrs Doyle of Craggy Island would have to say on this topic, as far as stereotypes go.
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