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   Lili Saintcrow (lilithsaintcrow@raggedfeathers.com)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 00:26:31 JST Lili Saintcrow

   I’m having thoughts this morning about why and how abusers—small to large to institutional—always attempt to force both targets and enablers to deny reality, first in tiny ways, then escalating.

   It’s a commonality, a strategy, and a tactic. I wonder how conscious it is.

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     Lili Saintcrow (lilithsaintcrow@raggedfeathers.com)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 00:26:29 JST Lili Saintcrow

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     My childhood abusers were not content to simply physically batter me into submission but inevitably wanted a verbal denial of reality, whether it was their version of the triggering event for their rage confirmed, or a fawning reassurance that I loved them and they were right to beat me.

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     Lili Saintcrow (lilithsaintcrow@raggedfeathers.com)'s status on Friday, 12-Jul-2024 00:26:30 JST Lili Saintcrow

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     This is of course referred to as DARVO when talking about interpersonal abuse, but the dynamic occurs at large scale with fascist and reactionary movements, which are simply abusers writ large.

     The requirement of the Party that one disbelieve one’s own eyes and ears, as Orwell put it.

     Blaise Pabón - controlpl4n3 and Bill repeated this.