S told me how I can delay the necessity to quit, but her solution doesn't solve the major problems (namely that my needs and their needs are different and moving farther apart quickly).

R also spoke up and said he advises "don't quit $EMPLOYER, make $EMPLOYER quit you" ... but that sounds like "don't quit, get yourself fired" which is probably the worst advice ever.

K asked when my last day is. I told him I hadn't announced it, but that my plan is to send in my resignation "with immediate effect" one morning next week. The irony is that I'm on the list of people that were recommended for a merit increase. Potentially, the raise could finish processing the same day I quit.