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   Man of Sand (sand@mindly.social)'s status on Thursday, 11-Apr-2024 09:39:14 JST Man of Sand

   My 6y/o keeps ‘giving up’ too easily when faced with challenges.

   Other than beating them 🤭, what can I do to encourage her to keep trying or try harder?

   I don’t want to spoil her with rewards for small victories.

   Parenting advice please!

   #parenting #dadlife #adulting

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     Joe Wynne (joewynne@mindly.social)'s status on Thursday, 11-Apr-2024 10:28:46 JST Joe Wynne

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     @sand
     Build confidence over time by providing better opportunities for success and then recognizing those successes. Let the child feel the satisfaction to generate self-motivation.

     Don't focus on failures as much, the child already does that.

     And remember that everything thing is a phase and may soon pass for some new behavior that causes you frustration.

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     Johanna's Garden (johannasgarden@mindly.social)'s status on Thursday, 11-Apr-2024 10:31:30 JST Johanna's Garden

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     @sand Is your child tired, depressed, anxious, or could there be another factor limiting her base level resources to "keep trying?

     Does she have a higher fear of failure than most children?

     Is it possible that the challenges are harder for her than you think they are, or the goals less important to her.

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     Man of Sand (sand@mindly.social)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:22:06 JST Man of Sand

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     • jollyroberts

     @jollyroberts Bluey episodes have really helped me in the past. Quality parenting guidance. Thanks for the reminder!

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     jollyroberts (jollyroberts@fosstodon.org)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:22:07 JST jollyroberts

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     @sand there is a pretty good Bluey episode that i remind my 6 year old of when she does this.

     The dad and bluey watch other kids try, give up, try again, finally get the thing.

     I think its in season two, but im not sure.

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     Man of Sand (sand@mindly.social)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:25:44 JST Man of Sand

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     • Joe Wynne

     @joewynne I agree 100%. I often remind her that she can do *hard things* if she tries.

     I just don't think she wants to try. Like she's perfectly fine with a 'participation award'

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     Man of Sand (sand@mindly.social)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:27:45 JST Man of Sand

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     • Johanna's Garden

     @JohannasGarden admittedly, physical activities are harder for her than mental activities. She is very strong academically. Has the ability to pick up languages easily, math, etc. But physical abilities like playground play, gymnastics, swimming, she struggles and doesn't like to 'try'

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     Man of Sand (sand@mindly.social)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:29:32 JST Man of Sand

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     • Mr. Matt

     @sprocket yeah! i don't know where they get it from either! Both my wife and I are very positive and encouraging. We display that in our every day lives. From play to food.

     We're willing to try anything - partly because that's what we want our kid to resemble but it's not working LOL

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     Mr. Matt (sprocket@fosstodon.org)'s status on Monday, 15-Apr-2024 00:29:33 JST Mr. Matt

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     @sand my children give up ultra quick if they don't succeed first try. Doesn't matter what it is.

     I'm really not sure where they get it from.