found a website where you can get free and personalized legal advice about your rights as an EU citizen called Your Europe Advice https://europa.eu/youreurope/advice/index_en.htm
it's an NGO with over 60 lawyers contracted by the EU commission. they also work with SOLVIT which will actually mediate in disputes between EU nationals and countries that aren't their home country regarding the violation of EU rights https://ec.europa.eu/solvit/index_en.htm and gently remind govt institutions of your rights as an EU citizen
i'm just leaving these here in case anyone ever needs these like i do right now