No matter how many times I hear the term “gold star lesbian,” I break out into fits of uncontrollable laughter.
I’m not sure what form of superiority a so-called “gold star lesbian” is extrapolating here but it definitely tends to lead to some form gatekeeping and bisexual, pansexual, queer et al women tend to be the ones that catch the brunt of it.
The implication almost always seems to be that queer women must be kept separate from lesbians because most queer women don't date women exclusively like lesbians do; thus are not eligible to speak on issues that women who love women face.
To me, that just reeks of biphobic nonsense and is giving gatekeeper behaviour.