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   Cat Hicks (grimalkina@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 10-Feb-2024 02:50:20 JST Cat Hicks

   The assumptions embedded in so much commentary about technical leadership and organizational design are so hard to sit through sometimes. Like oh hmmm I wonder why certain groups of people think the only problem is that everyone else is too stupid to keep up with them. I wonder why certain facets of our society are delighted to make 10x the money of the people they sit next to, and then find themselves struggling to incorporate the expertise of the people they sit next to. Mysteries abound.

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     Cat Hicks (grimalkina@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 10-Feb-2024 02:50:20 JST Cat Hicks

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     It is a by definition narcissist worldview to decide "people don't care about anything and they're stupid and I'm the only one who's right" when you could ask yourself "I wonder what else those people are caring about."

     A thin veneer of "I am the only one who understands human needs on a profound level, I am the one who eats my vegetables" does not fool anyone, not really. We all feel the contempt radiating off people who cannot compassionately say, "I wonder why."

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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 10-Feb-2024 02:52:21 JST Paul Cantrell

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     @grimalkina Yes. YES. Thank you.

     Your remarks bring to mind this piece’s exhortation to respond to other human beings with curiosity instead of judgement:
     https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01

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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 10-Feb-2024 04:22:13 JST Paul Cantrell

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     @grimalkina
     It’s so, so good.

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     Cat Hicks (grimalkina@mastodon.social)'s status on Saturday, 10-Feb-2024 04:22:14 JST Cat Hicks

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     @inthehands I love this piece/and the follow-up book!

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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 11-Feb-2024 01:22:43 JST Paul Cantrell

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     • Trisha Lynn 🇵🇭 🇺🇸 🇨🇦

     @trishalynn @grimalkina
     The struggle to do that is real and never-ending, but it’s worth the struggle many times over. Sounds like a good therapist!

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     Trisha Lynn 🇵🇭 🇺🇸 🇨🇦 (trishalynn@mastodon.sandwich.net)'s status on Sunday, 11-Feb-2024 01:22:46 JST Trisha Lynn 🇵🇭 🇺🇸 🇨🇦

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     • Paul Cantrell

     @inthehands @grimalkina Responding with curiosity is something that my therapist is always attempting to convince me to do because I was raised with a binary-thinking mindset. Doing so has really defused some of the tensions I have in my interpersonal relationships (I hope).