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   Girl on the Net (girlonthenet@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:38:36 JST Girl on the Net

   What’s your best piece of relationship advice?

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     I’m Tired And Everything Hurts (guffo@topspicy.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:38:36 JST I’m Tired And Everything Hurts

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     @girlonthenet Have your own shit to do and don't be in each other's hair constantly.

     Trust each other until you have a genuine reason not to.

     And the best advice is this, paraphrased from one of the Hitchhiker's Guide books: "You care, I don't, you win."

     This avoids so many unnecessary arguments. Do you care about what colour to paint the hallway or are you just trying to win an argument? Let shit go unless it *really* matters to you.

     Married for 24 years this year, so it seems to be working

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     Passenger (passenger@kolektiva.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:40:28 JST Passenger

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     @girlonthenet

     Someone who will betray others for you will betray you for others.

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     Girl on the Net (girlonthenet@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:40:28 JST Girl on the Net

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     @passenger oof

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     Corvid Crone (corvidcrone@kolektiva.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:41:18 JST Corvid Crone

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     @girlonthenet

     1.) Thank your partner for even mundane tasks, like loading the dishwasher. People should be appreciated for the small things as well as the big ones.

     2.) No mind games, no testing, etc...

     3.) You have to communicate even the things that you think should just be known.

     4.) When in a disagreement, do not use the second person. It will only make whatever its about harder to overcome

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     Mel (melofthevalley@mstdn.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-Jan-2024 21:42:12 JST Mel

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     @girlonthenet when you want a cuddle, ask for a cuddle. Don’t ask your partner if they need a cuddle and be hurt when they say, “no, I’m good, thanks.”

     *yes, I have done this exact one🙃.

     More generally, recognise your own needs and ask, don’t make an oblique reference and be disappointed that your mind isn’t being read.

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