Chris Limb
I've never been comfortable with the term "emotional intelligence" as it implies un-intelligence on the part of #ActuallyAutistic people like me who feel emotions too strongly and find them overwhelming.
Implies we're somehow less human.
I feel a lot of emotion very easily. It's hard to control so I over the years I have become very practiced at doing so. Acting to minimise potential negative emotional impact on people.
I don't think that makes me unintelligent! Or any less human.
Bethany Black
@catmachine I think that’s an example of autistic black and white thinking.
Finding emotions overwhelming isn’t necessarily a sign of poor emotional intelligence, nor a sign that you’re any “less human” any more than intellectual intelligence is a marker of that.
Chris Limb
@BethanyBlack Yes, true. I do need to question my assumptions.
I was reacting more to memories of "Emotional Intelligence" courses I've come across or been on in the past, the goal of which seemed to me to be "Try to be less autistic!"
Bethany Black
@catmachine gah!! That’s the worst way to teach what are, mostly, learnable skills, especially for autistic people. Allistics are so bad at teaching this stuff because they lack the ability to see things from any other point of view, and fail to see the details for the whole picture
Chris Limb
@BethanyBlack Yes. It felt as if there was a hidden "Look just make an effort!" message.
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