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   Sexy Moon (moon@shitposter.club)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:47:18 JST Sexy Moon
   am I too considerate of people that would probably throw me on a bonfire if they could
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     Sexy Moon (moon@shitposter.club)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:48:47 JST Sexy Moon

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     @disarray I at least know you wouldn't
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     disarray (disarray@fedi.layer02.net)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:48:48 JST disarray

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     @Moon I would not
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:50:47 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @Moon Yes. I don't know that this is a thing a person can change or if it is desirable to change it, though, so maybe best not to worry about it.
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     autism :verified: (jeff@misinformation.wikileaks2.org)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:51:09 JST autism :verified:

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     @Moon they wouldn't even rape you, right?
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     Sexy Moon (moon@shitposter.club)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 09:51:49 JST Sexy Moon

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     @p thanks. I just don';t want to fall into more negativity and always be evaluating if I should have kindness for someone based on reciprocity
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     pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist: (p@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 10:02:50 JST pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:

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     @Moon Ah, you're just always nice, that's great, just there are people that are overtly hostile and not worth dealing with, and you seem to have way more patience for them than I would. (I don't know if anyone specific prompted this lately.)
     
     Reciprocity calculations make things untenable. Someone that kind of encourages that is worth avoiding; like, someone that keeps score in personal relationships ends up either exploiting you or causing you to keep score, neither of which is desirable. Passive-aggressive behavior is a form of hostility.
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     moesha (moesha@yuga.surf)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 10:03:26 JST moesha

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     @Moon I am always nice to people unless they have harmed me in very specific and damaging ways. The amount of people that have can be counted on one hand.
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     Hombre Lego Mexicano (grandtheftautism@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Friday, 01-Dec-2023 17:29:00 JST Hombre Lego Mexicano

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     • pistolero :thispersondoesnotexist:
     @p @Moon if someone is not dealing with you in good faith, there is no point in continuing to associate with them. There are TONS of people like that on the internet, and a few irl.
     
     There are a lot of people who assume that if they get the last word, that means they've "won". But all it really means is that their opponents have deserted the argument in disgust.
     
     There are also a lot of people who can't admit they're wrong under any circumstances. Usually they try to turn the narrative around so the blame falls on you for their error. Extremely frustrating if this person is your employer or your spouse. You'll notice a lot of turnover in these people's lives in spite of any charms or redeeming qualities they might have.
     
     Both types are to be avoided; disengage asap
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     ≠ Brett Stevens ≠ (amerika@freespeechextremist.com)'s status on Saturday, 02-Dec-2023 05:36:39 JST ≠ Brett Stevens ≠

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     @p @Moon
     
     Passive-aggression is in fact the worst form of hostility because it is resentful and cyclic.
     
     Whatever you do, they claim is an injury, therefore injure you so you respond, and thus the cycle continues.
     
     Very much a product of human solipsism.
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