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   Allie (grissallia@aus.social)'s status on Thursday, 23-Nov-2023 22:01:30 JST Allie

   • Bethany Black

   @BethanyBlack I feel this, but for a slightly different reason. It's only just recently that I've started processing that I don't know what my own needs and boundaries are because I spent so much of my adult life adjusting my boundaries for everyone else, that it just felt normal.

   Once I kept adapting for other people, they expect that I will continue doing that, and realising that the one of the reasons I'm constantly out of spoons is that I never say "This far, and no further" is massive.

   It just sucks that the people in our lives who we most need to respect our boundaries are the people most likely to jack up with us for setting them in the first place.

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     Bethany Black (bethanyblack@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 23-Nov-2023 22:01:30 JST Bethany Black

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     @grissallia exactly this, just no idea we were trying so hard and the reason we can’t do what we used to be able to is that they broke us. “You did it then you can do it now” like part of the disability isn’t that we’re not always obviously consistent