"But regardless of the extent to which Kaufman’s existential quandaries are bound up with his characters’ gender discomfort, he never goes so far as to allow them to transition.
Being John Malkovich punishes Craig for his cross-gender desires by giving him what he wants in the most nightmarish way possible: thrusting him into a female body he is unable to control. Lotte is not a trans man, just a confused lesbian. In Human Nature, Lila resigns herself to imprisonment. These early works seem skeptical that the escape from the self these characters crave is possible; they seem to be in denial that transition is an acceptable solution.
Twenty years later, I’m Thinking of Ending Things deals with the consequences of that denial."