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   Eniko Fox (eniko@peoplemaking.games)'s status on Thursday, 12-Oct-2023 03:21:39 JST Eniko Fox

   "real name" policies are evidence that there are people in charge who have never moved to another country

   you wanna know what my real name is? according to whomst, exactly? hell in the US various federal orgs couldn't even agree on what my name was supposed to be. no, scratch that, even the social security administration, internally, couldn't agree on what my name was and changed it like 4 times over a 6 year stay

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     Sarah (gaycodegal@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 12-Oct-2023 03:21:33 JST Sarah

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     @eniko the real names policy is about "be called something like Kate Foresworth" and don't be called "SnakesAssIsThicc". It doesn't matter if there's 12 different spellings of Kate you may be known by they'll let you use any of them it's all about keeping out people who only go by handles or who wish to remain anonymous, which is largely trans people, or other minorities. The point is really not to exclude someone who changed their last name

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     Eniko Fox (eniko@peoplemaking.games)'s status on Thursday, 12-Oct-2023 03:21:35 JST Eniko Fox

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     "stop trying to make it all about you, you are an outlier"

     no i'm not. source: https://worldmigrationreport.iom.int/wmr-2022-interactive/

     and that's just literal migrants. do you wanna try married women? divorced women? trans people? anyone else who's had to or wanted to change their name for any other reason?

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     Eniko Fox (eniko@peoplemaking.games)'s status on Thursday, 12-Oct-2023 03:21:36 JST Eniko Fox

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     there is no such thing as someone's "real name"

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     Graham Sutherland / Polynomial (gsuberland@chaos.social)'s status on Thursday, 12-Oct-2023 03:22:03 JST Graham Sutherland / Polynomial

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     @eniko it's also such a white western view of the world to assume that everyone has one canonical "real" name. other cultures have completely different naming conventions for people, often with contextual usage and repeated changes throughout someone's life.

     you could feasibly build a university-level course just studying the modern history (1900-now) of Chinese naming conventions and their interaction with systems and bureaucracies in and out of China. and that's just one country!

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     ThePhD (thephd@pony.social)'s status on Friday, 13-Oct-2023 06:20:31 JST ThePhD

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     • Sarah

     @gaycodegal @eniko If someone wants to submit a PR by the name SnakeAssIsThicc, they can and should be able to.

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     EVERYTHING'S COMPUTER (be@floss.social)'s status on Friday, 13-Oct-2023 06:22:30 JST EVERYTHING'S COMPUTER

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     @eniko When people ask me "Is that your real name?", I respond with "It is if you really call me it."

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     Polychrome :blabcat: (polychrome@poly.cybre.city)'s status on Friday, 13-Oct-2023 06:29:53 JST Polychrome :blabcat:

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     • blake shaw 🇵🇸
     @rml @eniko I keep trying but then they tell me my net name isn't a real name :blobcatneutral:
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     blake shaw 🇵🇸 (rml@functional.cafe)'s status on Friday, 13-Oct-2023 06:29:54 JST blake shaw 🇵🇸

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     STOP DOING REAL NAMES

     * NAMES WERE NOT SUPPOSED TO INVOLVE NUMBER THEORY
     * YEARS of GIVEN NAMES yet still NOBODY TO VOLUNTARILY TAKE ONE
     * Want to give a name anyway? We had a tool for that: it was called "PROGRAMMING"
     * "Thats not their GIVEN name. Thats their SUR name" -- statements dreamed up by the utterly deranged.

     @eniko

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     Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell: (lanodan@queer.hacktivis.me)'s status on Friday, 13-Oct-2023 06:32:08 JST Haelwenn /элвэн/ :triskell:

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     • Graham Sutherland / Polynomial
     @gsuberland @eniko
     Not even, the only way you can have your name never changing even for someone in Europe:
     - No alphabet change and stayed the official language (so no minority language or unofficial one)
     - No marriage/divorce/… specially if you're a women
     - Your parents never had a name change either (their own family name or their first name)
     - Never changed of countries/states (which can happen via frontier changes)
     
     And probably a whole bunch of others I'm not recalling.