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   TheWitchBitch ?️???️ (thewitchbitch@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 10:47:29 JST TheWitchBitch ?️???️
   I cannot believe how fucking bitter men are about the idea that they might have to buy a woman an actual diamond ring. All they want a buyer is some cheap shit that has no resale value, won't be passed down, and falls apart after 10 or so years. Your love is cheap, in fact it's not even love. Go die.
   
   You can get a ring for a grand or you can even get a second hand vintage ring for less. But these disgusting things don't want to do one thing to make this woman happy or proud.
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     stingray (2023 edition) (stingray@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 16:00:23 JST stingray (2023 edition)

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     @TheWitchBitch I think my sister lucked out since her husband, to my knowledge, gives a shit about her thoughts and feelings. Her previous relationships were with absolute scumbags.
     
     The drastic differences in replies gets me thinking, clearly there's not going to be a one-size-fits-all solution for engagement/wedding rings. A ring choice or lack thereof could probably be a good test of how well someone knows you. I'm sure plenty of ladies would be happy with a lab diamond or even a cubic zirconium without even considering it a compromise, and then there are the oddballs who want citrines or whatever.
     
     I wonder how many of the dudes crying about diamonds will ever actually be in a situation to buy one.
     
     I guess the moral of the story is that it's important to communicate and gauge expectations to avoid fucking up royally. I've heard stories of women getting upset that a ring was mad expensive almost as much as I hear disappointment about cheaping out.
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     TheWitchBitch ?️???️ (thewitchbitch@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 16:00:24 JST TheWitchBitch ?️???️

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     @stingray I particularly hate the shitty lab-grown diamonds. The ring is supposed to be a symbol of your love and but they want to give a fake stone. Furthermore, they still charge so much for the fake trash. I'd rather spend a little bit more and have something that was actually worth it. I also wouldn't marry a cheapskate with zero taste.
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     TheWitchBitch ?️???️ (thewitchbitch@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 16:00:24 JST TheWitchBitch ?️???️

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     @stingray well I'd want the little prick to show me that he can invest in me and do things for me just to make me fucking happy because he loves me.
     
     Women just seem to give up on standards because so many men are shit.Then they end up compromising and compromising and compromising and end up in a shit marriage with someone who doesn't do anything for them.
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     stingray (2023 edition) (stingray@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 16:00:25 JST stingray (2023 edition)

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     @TheWitchBitch I didn't know anyone was still particular about diamonds. My sister and her husband went with sapphires, but it was because they like the color rather than anyone being a cheapskate.
     
     I'd be down for a peridot.
     
     But I can tell what you're referring to here isn't "my fiance prefers that other gem so I'll break tradition" guys and is more "hrrgh blurggh damn gold digging bitches" guys.
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     Cousin_Martha_Corey (cousin_isobel@spinster.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 23-Sep-2023 16:51:06 JST Cousin_Martha_Corey

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     @TheWitchBitch I don’t understand how people get married at all. It’s all so sad now. Men don’t even want to do it. They only give in after years of pressure from the woman and then, very comedically, they stage a “proposal.” Literally, she wanted to get married three years ago, and said so, and now, he sets up some sort of faux-romantic scenario and pretends it was his idea. I don’t know how the woman can get anything out of it knowing he was so reluctant.

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