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   Rachel, Femme Doux Naturel (ykantrachelread@kolektiva.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Sep-2023 20:45:29 JST Rachel, Femme Doux Naturel

   listen, y'all. I've been down this road before.

   they don't care about us.

   I've talked many times before about the concept of transfeminine debt - the idea that, while every other marginalized demographic has their access needs catered to in leftist or queer spaces, transfem people arrive in those same spaces already in debt to the space. instead of having our access needs considered and addressed, we need to bring something *to* the space in order to be considered worthy of admission.

   and if we don't bring anything that the TMEs and cishets consider useful, then we're disposable. they'll be rid of us at the first opportunity.

   to them, we don't have needs. to them, we don't deserve to take up space or have our voices heard.

   to them, we're trash. to them, we're only as much use as our labor and our willingness to keep our heads down and our mouths shut until we're needed. and then, we might just be discarded anyway.

   transfem people built our own weird, wonderful spaces and networks here on fedi, and I feel so privileged to be a part of them. my feed is filled with homeless, poor, plural, mentally ill, disabled, BIPOC, neurodivergent transfem people, transfem people from all around the world, transfem people struggling to survive in a world that wants us dead and desiring nothing more than a little space where we can seek refuge from the people trying to fucking genocide us.

   but because we don't have needs, because we're not useful, we're not allowed to speak up for our needs. so a bunch of cis and TME HOA types and their sycophants trampling all over us becomes not an occasion for reflection on how rampant transmisogyny is here, or how transfem people have access needs that should be considered on the level of other marginalized groups,

   but instead an occasion for us to be taken down a peg or three, fashjacketed, ultimately de-facto exiled from the fediverse as a whole.

   we're taking up too much space. we're too goddamn loud. we're no longer useful.

   we are disposable.

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     Rachel, Femme Doux Naturel (ykantrachelread@kolektiva.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Sep-2023 20:46:58 JST Rachel, Femme Doux Naturel

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     but of course, we're not ACTUALLY disposable. we're important, we're beautiful, our mere existence is fucking profound. the cishets and TMEs who think we're trash, who want to toss us out the window the moment we dare to voice a fucking access need, don't fucking deserve us.

     so, if they wanna be rid of us? fucking go for it. we'll still be building communities, seeking each other out, being weird and wild and wonderful with each other until the day the jackboots show up at our dirty little doorsteps.

     because y'all sure aren't going to help us.

     you don't even recognize that we have needs, let alone the fact that we're being fucking genocided right now.

     so go fuck yourselves.

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     The Actual Devil Herself (kryptskiddy@chaosfem.tw)'s status on Thursday, 14-Sep-2023 07:50:11 JST The Actual Devil Herself

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     @YKantRachelRead fucking AMEN, sister.

     I'd rather be down here with the trash than up there with the sniveling, opportunistic cowards any day. 😤