@Coyote@tyil I've had this discussion many times. Some people have no problems, other people have nothing but problems. A lot of it is because of what IP block you're coming from.
I worked at a company, we had the same IP range since the 1990s. Manageable spam, deliverability good. We had way too big of a block of IPs so we sold it and bought a smaller block. That block got continuous spam and deliverability went into the toilet. After a year of fighting it we just got gmail for business.
@Moon@tyil I’ve been using a self hosted mail server for 3 years, and the only trouble I ever had with it was from Craigslist, and that was just because I forgot to set the reverse DNS on my IP address.
@tyil@Coyote my server hosts its own outgoing email but if you are running a business, your mail getting delivered is the most important thing. I lost work as an independent contractor when it turned out some people weren't receiving my mail from my self-hosted server.
@Coyote@social.singing.dog@Moon@shitposter.club The troubles are usually with the big email providers wanting to maintain a monopoly. They generally just drop any mail that is not from the big providers, and they can do that because most people give up and go with the big providers instead.
I self-host solely because I don't want to encourage the monopoly, but I can understand (though strongly disagree with) the practice of outsourcing it to the monopoly.
@Moon@shitposter.club@Coyote@social.singing.dog I'm no independent contractor, so for me its a bit easier to say "should've used a decent email provider" and stop thinking about the party not receiving my email.
@Moon@tyil@Coyote the ip block is very important. from my experience, hetzner or ovh are not going to be delivered even jumping through all the hoops, smaller clean providers sometimes get delivered even without much extra work.