You can't claim to uplift the anger of the oppressed against their oppressors if, in more personal contexts, you simultaneously expect those who have been mistreated to stay calm and rational as a prerequisite to being heard and supported. How can we stand in solidarity against oppression if we can't even do it in our own group chats? "But then you're stooping to their level" is no better on a small scale. The microcosm of abuse and authority is the macrocosm of fascism and oppression