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* *Trans Experiences: The story of the Kiwi, being misgendered, and of chicken pies **

A week ago I was misgendered in a local butcher's shop buying a pie. This is so rare now! The bloke was a Kiwi who knew me pre-transition and hasn't seen me in ~3 years. I was called "mate", likely from prior voice familiarity. I didn't confront on the spot as I sensed a pure accident, a slip

My first reaction? Ouch! Of course was I don't want to go back there

I mull it over, as is my wont

I decide I WILL go back this morning, pre-armed with my ferociously femme glasses and a withering pre-prepared line in mind

I walk in

He sees me and immediately says "Hello, young lady". He is over-polite

He knows he got it wrong before. I know it too 💜

I accept his undoubted "lady", smile back pleasantly at the more dubious "young"

And by going back, I reclaim that space, lose not a drop of trans agency or my pride :Fire_Trans: I will be myself, neither weak nor meek

Plus, they *do* make cracking pies 🤔

#Trans #Musings #Food