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   Chris Trottier (atomicpoet@calckey.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-May-2023 10:38:39 JST Chris Trottier

   I’m autistic.
   
   Most people are surprised by this. This is because I’m generally good at communication, and I generally know when to display empathy when called upon it.
   
   These skips weren’t easy to acquire. They took a lot of effort. But the net effect is that I’ve largely built a career on communications, being able to relate to technical and non-technical people alike.
   
   But there’s certain things I’m not good at.
   
   For example, stuff pertaining to social status. Last night, I said that I wanted to use certain software but was leery about the price of data.
   
   The dev replied back, saying I was talking down his project to 16,000 people, and felt that I was somehow angry or upset about something I don’t have a clue about.
   
   And stuff like this happens quite often. I say something I think is innocuous. I unexpectedly piss someone off. People assign to me motivations where there is none.
   
   So I know this is hard to believe but there’s no subtext with me. There’s no “read between the lines”. I’m generally a literal person who tends to mean things literally—unless specified otherwise.
   
   I have no axe to grind. I try not to get involved in personal Fedi drama. I’m not trying to make life difficult for anyone because life can be difficult as it is.
   
   Cheers 🍻

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     Kevin :v_greyace: :vp: (liamsora@4xl.co)'s status on Tuesday, 30-May-2023 10:57:02 JST Kevin :v_greyace: :vp:

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     @atomicpoet FWIW, your original post seemed completely reasonable to me. I have no idea why they interpreted it as a put down of their project specifically rather than a general “This seems cool and I’d like to try it but it seems logistically more difficult due to the bandwidth required.”

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     Maria The Martian :Shiropuyo_rainbow: (mariathemartian@calckey.social)'s status on Tuesday, 30-May-2023 15:59:13 JST Maria The Martian :Shiropuyo_rainbow:

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     @atomicpoet Same, Chris, people are surprised when I tell them I am autistic. They are not used to someone without the subtext who is so direct. I say what I mean and I think people are not used to such sparkling honesty. Lol.
     Also I say weird stuff that is funny to me which often gets misunderstood. Hehe. All the time.

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