On identifying as #genderqueer Recently, I uncovered a pattern in certain relationship pursuits that is directly connected to my relationship with my dad. I realized a lot of the times when I pursued more masculine appearances and tried to act like one of the boys, I was really trying to emulate my dad as a way to connect or bond with him. Which got me thinking! More in comments!
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Masha Medvednik (scalene@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 19-May-2023 03:21:23 JST Masha Medvednik
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Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 19-May-2023 03:21:20 JST Kit Rhett Aultman
@scalene These are definitely some interesting insights, and I can say that as I've "taken the safeties off" and just let myself choose to express or at least negotiate with the femme I bottled up for 20 years, I've also asked a lot of these questions. I confess I've not found amazing answers. It's like trying to trace how I developed as a bisexual person.
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Masha Medvednik (scalene@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 19-May-2023 03:21:21 JST Masha Medvednik
How much feminine identity do I claim when most of the time I express hyper femme, I mean daily arched eyebrows and liquid eyeliner.. And yet, inside, despite the appearance, I feel like bro’ing out in manner and facial expression. Is this occasional and relatively consistent bromance a reflection of my childhood yearning to connect with dad or just who I am? The great thing is that I finally feel at peace not knowing and just celebrating myself exactly as I am.
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I Forget (epilanthanomai@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 19-May-2023 10:16:41 JST I Forget
@roadriverrail Holy cheeseballs, you came out as bi and your whole software development methodology changed?! I'm clearly doing something wrong here...
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Kit Rhett Aultman (roadriverrail@signs.codes)'s status on Friday, 19-May-2023 10:36:22 JST Kit Rhett Aultman
@epilanthanomai I stared at this for two minutes before getting the joke. Congratulations are in order.
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Masha Medvednik (scalene@signs.codes)'s status on Saturday, 20-May-2023 12:18:38 JST Masha Medvednik
@roadriverrail @epilanthanomai lol the joke is still at a distance for me but i suspect there’s a double entendre somewhere in there…
@roadriverrail when I first discovered ru Paul, in 1994, and that boys can be girls and girls boys and that hotness can be expressed both ways, I immediately felt attracted to both. Actual pursuits, well that’s a whole diff story lol
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