> [M]y experience with the trans community as an ally has been one of openness, inclusivity and patience... We mess up each other’s pronouns, apologize and move on. We toss each other the same $100 like a hot potato every time someone needs to pay their gas bills, raise funds for a decent chest binder or grab some comfort food after a particularly hard day. In private homes and group chats, we soft-launch new names and outfits that we might never have the courage to don outside. If a friend announces that, actually, they tried out the whole trans deal and didn’t think it made sense for them? “Cool!” we say. “Thanks for telling us.”