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What an autistic person says: "How long is it going to take?" What they mean: "l want to know whether to activate my short term waiting mode where | just wait and do nothing else, or activate my long term waiting mode where | occupy my mind with something else. | fully understand that both are possibilities, and | have no problem whatsoever with either one, but | want more information so | can best adapt to the situation.” What neurotypical people hear: "l am impatient and demand that everything | want happen right now. Please scold me and publicly humiliate me for it."

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What an autistic person says: "How long is it going to take?" What they mean: "l want to know whether to activate my short term waiting mode where | just wait and do nothing else, or activate my long term waiting mode where | occupy my mind with something else. | fully understand that both are possibilities, and | have no problem whatsoever with either one, but | want more information so | can best adapt to the situation.” What neurotypical people hear: "l am impatient and demand that everything | want happen right now. Please scold me and publicly humiliate me for it."
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Tee Wood 💛 🤍 💜 🖤 (tee@inkconceivable.me)'s status on Monday, 09-Dec-2024 20:55:13 JST Tee Wood 💛 🤍 💜 🖤

This…
Also un-medicated ADHD means my understanding of time is generally “now” and “not now” but also I don’t always have the ability to compartmentalise waiting, so an appointment in the afternoon will take up my headspace for the whole day. Likewise, not having a set deadline or any idea of when a deadline might happen is excruciating for me.

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