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I had to fully encase my philosophy and proof read it so it made sense so take this as sage advice.

I think the only way to find happiness is to be successful and do things you enjoy, rather than to find companionship (companionship is a section of success but it isn't the whole thing) At least at the start, companionship comes later.

Companionship for companionship's sake I don't think really exists anymore. And I think the only people really doing that are low tier or sub standard people looking for a hookup because they don't got anything going on in their lives. Not saying you specifically I'm saying that most people who use dating apps are there for a reason usually bad (not just hookups, but they are generally bad people).

interrogative:
Wouldn't it be cool Mr. SSV found Mrs. SSV and had 3-4 Jrs?

Sounds awesome right? Logistically it's difficult unless you are successful. So my own personal reasoning is if I want a reality like that working on myself/yourself is the best way to position myself/yourself to accomplish that.

There was a time I could have married my ex 8.9/10 gf. It would have been an extremely unwise financial decision to make. She didn't take logistics seriously I think so I would have had to be bread winner (hard to do out when in College).

Divorce rates in the US are like 50%, and the most common reason is usually financial strain. Don't have children out of wedlock you exacerbate the likelihood of divorce, because likely you didn't consider the finacial burden of raising children and how difficult it actually is.

But you know you can reduce that divorce statistic if you apply certain attributes?

Are you both of the same faith? Risk goes down.
Are you both college educated? Risk goes down.
Are you both financially responsible and have similar financial goals? Risk goes down.

There's probably others but those are the ones I remember.

The reason I bring up marriage is because any relationship that isn't ending in it, is a waste of time.

But if you apply those filters to your potential partner, then likely your dating pool is significantly small and limited... That's kind of the point. It removes a large amount of women who likely are going use you for their own gain, will eventually breakup with you, divorce you, cheat, whatever. Ultimately it's not worth your time.

Realistically the type of women you are after are not on dating platforms and might be career driven in the same way you are, but don't have the time to date.

My advice would be do some in person activities or hobbies or clubs. Don't go there to pick up girls go there to be the master of whatever activity that is assuming you enjoy that activity. Senior upperclassmen usually are perceived higher by underclassmen, so maybe you'd have some luck there. If I actually tried I probably could pick up women at my local gun club, but I don't go there enough to know anybody.

I'll let you know my advice for 30+, but I'm pretty certain we are similar in age.

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