AITA for implying to my dad’s neighbour that he’s senile to avoid being randomly outed? POO Mode Activated 💩 I (26M) am a transgender man. I’ve been out since I was 16 and started medically transitioning at 19. I’m pretty burly and I have a beard, so at this point no one would have any reason to think I’m trans unless I tell them. My dad (67M)’s perspective on this is basically “I won’t argue with you about it, but I’m also not going to change the way I refer to you.” It’s annoying, but I can live with it I was visiting a couple of days ago, and my dad and I bumped into his neighbour from a few doors down and ended up in a conversation about a . My dad introduced me to his neighbour with “this is my daughter, (old name).” Not really wanting to have to explain to this random stranger that I’m trans, I just said, “no Dad, I’m (name), your son, remember?” in a concerned/pitying tone of voice, then sort of looked at the neighbour with a sad expression. My dad, as usual, just awkwardly dismissed it and tried to continue the conversation without acknowledging it. The neighbour sort of did an “ah, gotcha” expression, and for the rest of the conversation he spoke slower to my dad. Later, my dad told me he didn’t like that I’d made his neighbour think he was senile, because he might have conversations with him in the future and would have to spend those conversations being treated like he’s in the early stages of dementia.

AITA for implying to my dad’s neighbour that he’s senile to avoid being randomly outed? POO Mode Activated 💩 I (26M) am a transgender man. I’ve been out since I was 16 and started medically transitioning at 19. I’m pretty burly and I have a beard, so at this point no one would have any reason to think I’m trans unless I tell them. My dad (67M)’s perspective on this is basically “I won’t argue with you about it, but I’m also not going to change the way I refer to you.” It’s annoying, but I can live with it I was visiting a couple of days ago, and my dad and I bumped into his neighbour from a few doors down and ended up in a conversation about a . My dad introduced me to his neighbour with “this is my daughter, (old name).” Not really wanting to have to explain to this random stranger that I’m trans, I just said, “no Dad, I’m (name), your son, remember?” in a concerned/pitying tone of voice, then sort of looked at the neighbour with a sad expression. My dad, as usual, just awkwardly dismissed it and tried to continue the conversation without acknowledging it. The neighbour sort of did an “ah, gotcha” expression, and for the rest of the conversation he spoke slower to my dad. Later, my dad told me he didn’t like that I’d made his neighbour think he was senile, because he might have conversations with him in the future and would have to spend those conversations being treated like he’s in the early stages of dementia.
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