Notices by Chilly ❄️ Grinches 🤶🏻 (tillybridges@mastodon.social)

I’m doing an AMA for the Tilly’s Trans Tuesdays podcast’s 100th episode! I need questions to answer, so ask me some stuff!

I’m gonna stop taking questions after friday, so get to askin’!

https://ngl.link/tillybridges

TRANS HISTORY 1 is about HOW AND WHY WE NAME TRANS PEOPLE IN HISTORY

because there's been a long erasure of us, despite the fact that we've always existed

and we have to fight the "presumption of cisness" that permeates the field

includes discussions with trans historians!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/20/trans-history-1/

BOYMODE AND GIRLMODE is about how trans people often have to hide ourselves in a literal costume of the wrong gender

just to avoid being harassed, discriminated against, or worse at the hands of cis people

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/boymode-and-girlmode/

TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 part 1: MOVIES covers all the good, bad, jokes, and yikes in trans rep in every movie and tv show i saw in 2023

includes in-depth discussion of Barbie, Elemental, Joyride, Monica, Nimona, and more!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-1-movies/

THE ONLY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW is about how we’re such a small part of the population, for many us we end up as the only trans person a whole lot of people know

and sometimes we can get treated like walking databases by cis folks looking for answers

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/the-only-trans-person-you-know/

Trans Tuesdays are off until mid-january (ya girl needs rest), so i’m gonna link all the ones from 2024 in a big thread in case you missed any!

(only a few a day, don’t worry)

here’s GENDERED CHILDHOODS, about how compulsory cisness is forced on us as kids, and how that can really mess you up

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/gendered-childhoods/

TRANS MOTIVATION is how, after a lifetime of not being ourselves, the desire to be who we really are can spur us to do things we never thought possible

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/trans-motivation/

BODILY AUTONOMY (and my tattoo) is about how I could never understand why someone would want something on their body for life...

BECAUSE MY BODY NEVER FELT LIKE MINE

and how that amazingly changed after transition

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/bodily-autonomy-and-my-tattoo/

TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 part 3: TV part 2!

Wherein we talk Our Flag Means Death, Quantum Leap, Somebody Somewhere, Star Trek: Strange New Worlds, Ted Lasso, Upload, Yellowjackets, and more!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-3-movies-part-2/

TRANS REP IN MEDIA 2023 part 2: TV part 1!

This essay has in-depth discussions on Blue Eye Samurai, Foundation, Heartstopper, Monster High, Never Have I Ever, and more!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/14/trans-rep-in-media-2023-part-2-tv-part-1/

TRANSMEDICALISM (and WPATH version 1) is about people who think you can't be trans if you don't (or can't) medically transition... be on HRT, and get all the surgeries

and how it stems from the byzantine, hurtful bullshit cis doctors used to put us through just to "allow" us to transition

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/transmedicalism-and-wpath-version-1/

GENDER DYSPHORIA is about the reason for the season (for the vast majority of trans people, though not all)

it's my attempt to describe what my dysphoria was like, and what a living, walking, waking nightmare it was, and how much it hurt

includes a poem I wrote about it that hits kinda hard

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/06/gender-dysphoria/

TRANS MICROAGGRESSIONS is about all the little ways that even well-meaning cis folks can end up hurting us without realizing, and the cumulative damage that can cause

includes examples of some of the most common ones

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/trans-microaggressions/

IMPLICIT QUEERPHOBIA is about how society worms biases into all of us

and then people who want to call themselves "allies" perpetuate anti-queer/trans biases because our stories are "different"

as told through the lens of A LEAGUE OF THEIR OWN

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/implicit-queerphobia/

CIS SPOUSAL AND PARTNER SUPPORT is about how it's VITAL to support trans spouses and partners when we come out and transition

and how some people instead cruelly hold entire relationships (and even children) hostage, with the threat of us losing them if we transition

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/cis-spousal-and-partner-support/

THE 2022 US TRANS SURVEY REPORT (parts 1 and 2) are about the largest-ever survey of trans and nonbinary people in the US, conducted BY trans people.

The early insights from the survey were released in 2024, we talk about the data within, the good, the bad, and the surprising.

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/12/the-2022-us-trans-survey-results-part-1/

THE INTENTIONAL TRANS ALLEGORY OF BARBIE is an eight-part series about the inherent transness of the Barbie movie, and how deeply it speaks to the transfeminine experience

includes discussion of its many intentional Matrix references and, yes, the trans symbol that appears on screen!

Begins here!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/05/the-trans-allegory-of-barbie-part-1/

my FOUR YEARS OUT AND ON HRT CHECK-IN is your chance to catch up with how things were for my in my fourth year for each of those (though i knew i was trans for far longer)

includes my latest transition timeline where you can see how hormones grew me a whole new face!

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/four-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/

SEXUALITY IS NOT GENDER is about how the two get conflated in our society of compulsory cisgender heterosexuality

it's also how difficult it can be to figure out you're trans when you're also very very gay, and aren't sure if you're attracted to that lady or if you want to BE her (it's both?!)

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/13/sexuality-is-not-gender/

A TRANS RE-WEDDING is about how @susanlbridges and I redid our wedding so we could have one with the real me

it was the best day of my life, full of love and friends and Star Trek, and it was an entirely different reality than the first time around

what a difference a life makes

https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/22/a-trans-re-wedding/