Every time someone sings praises of how “peaceful” and “nice” the Fediverse is, you should add “for white cis people and mostly men” in your head, because that’s what it is and I’m tired of seeing the same take from the same people over and over again.
And if you feel the urge to reply sth like “if you don’t like it here, leave”, you’re part of the problem. Also, I do like it here. That doesn’t mean everything is great and above criticism.