Notices by Nege Q. Public :raccoon_junk: (theynege@beige.party)

Reminder that if you see a trans person's deadname (or really any person's name you don't already know them by) through indirect means because of all the places we have to use "legal names" or names slapped onto bank accounts: no you didn't.

I have had situations where I had to use PayPal or some other thing that had my legal name on it to send someone something, and in return I got the childish taunting "ooohh, I know your real name now" with a threat—or action—of calling me that over and over again to rub it in. That is outright bullying and makes me anxious to give mutual aid sometimes, which makes the world worse for everyone. Don't be that person.

Here's an attempt at thinking more positively.

The other day my brother and I were talking about movie rentals, and how the span of time those were relevant (between the critical mass of home VCRs and widespread adoption of streaming services) was only 20-25 years.

They seemed huge at the time—whether major chains like Blockbuster or the local independent ones that were charming spaces to patron and kept local subcultures together—but are a foreign idea to younger people, because they're really quite irrelevant now.

Things can come and go within our lifespan, including shitty periods of time. Not every change will be permanent.

Mussolini was in power for less than 25 years. Hitler for barely over 12. The Confederate South only had a 4 year stint.

A lot of people lived through these times, and suffered, but survived. We can hope this period of time will be shorter, but even if it feels like it's dragging on long, we can make it through to see a time where these maggots appear as common as Blockbuster stores today.

The extremely boomer reaction to any vague cultural criticism of "then DO SOMETHING about it!!!!!!!!!!" is such a self-absorbed and misinformed attitude as if all you see on social media is all a person is doing. If you have maladaptive poster brain because you didn't use the internet before Facebook marketed to your demographic and you got sucked into a vacuum of misinformation and cyclonic complaining, then you do not currently have an adequate perspective to say that shit. A lot of us are indeed "doing something about it" like existing and organizing and volunteering, but the only thing this mentality accepts is calling small businesses and demanding to speak to managers or hijacking town halls like Parks & Rec extras. It's beyond even the "go vote" strategy. Just useless and incorrect.

Cis people: omg you transeses are OBSESSED with gender!
Also cis people: every third document you touch in your everyday life must have either an M or F box checked and we need to see legal proof.

I'm glad I swiped one last record from my parents' house before they move. (Spoiler for surprise.)

I have this in my head this morning. I would boost it, but alas it was posted to since-deceased strangeobject.space. It seems unsuiting to post it again fresh. (cw: lewd)

Do we have any bird fans on the fediverse?

Yet again,

@Aleums imagine if a mysterious stranger popped out from behind a curtain and put two (2) drops of poison in a wine glass, and imagine if that person ALSO identified with the same gender they were assigned at birth. Horrifying. Nobody's drink is safe around the cis.

Monetize shutting the fuck up.

Well, if you need a mood lifter at one in the morning central standard time, here is what I did Monday morning.