@panegyr This essay is about unlearning people-pleasing by treating disobedience as a muscle to be strengthened, and by slowly acclimating yourself to other people's disapproval
"Gender is something men enforce on women and sometimes on other men" — cartoonishly unnuanced oversimplification
"Gender is something we all enforce on each other" — weaksauce, out of touch with material reality, leads to absurdly optimistic belief that we can solve all gender problems through education
"Gender is something that people with power enforce on people without" — useful, draws attention to the fact that gender is overwhelmingly enforced by adults onto children