Notices by Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach (hmm_cook@universeodon.com)

I can’t read and listen to music 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEUpgGodhng

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When I live in the worlds of what “should be” and “shouldn’t be”, all that ends up happening is that I feel bad.

I feel guilty and ashamed about my ability to get things done and waste a lot of energy doing mental gymnastics in a fantasy world.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #AutisticBurnout

Self-compassion can be as simple as acknowledging, “Yeah, this really does take me more than it takes other people, and that’s not a problem with me. That’s simply how I work and I’m okay with who I am.”

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Aiming for A "Good Day" Is Too Much Pressure

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXFpRswS0wY

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Even short naps in the middle of the day, 15 to 20 minutes, can help you recover so that you’re not just struggling for the rest of the day.

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What does the world need to learn from you that you know precisely because of the things that you’ve been through?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD

On Trying to be Normal

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_wW7lCt5Ig

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You get to choose how much to unmask, with whom and where, and you never have to do more than you’re ready to do at that moment.

#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #unmasking

Domestic labor is not free labor, you might not be paid in cash, but you are saving your household the money, which is income.

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Things like knowing what you want or need, what help to ask for, how to make sensory overwhelm better, and how to get energy back are all easier to figure out when you have real time feedback from your body about what it’s experiencing.

#Interoception #Autistic #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #BurnoutRecovery #Sensory

Getting Out of the What If Cycle

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8P-7C6poNlg&t=39s

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A functional autistic life 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OslZa4Ztzao

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Plan how much rest time it’ll actually take you to recuperate from something in, instead of backing yourself into a corner with some other commitments that you’ve made down the line.

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Although life is complicated and hard for everyone, as Autistics, we’ve got this extra layer of difficulty because the way the world works is not currently adapted for how we work.

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You Don't Need To Be Farther Along Than You Are

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zfHGbKmTVm0&t=71s

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While there are a lot of commonalities in peoples’ journeys, if your situation doesn’t fit the standard model or idealized version, it’s OK to adapt that answer or ignore it completely.

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Healing Communication Wounds Takes Time

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIwvXDvB7iU

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What are the things that get in your way and make you not able to work?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #Interoception

Anxiety, unlearning neurotypical “shoulds,” and creating a genuinely autism-positive life are not simple questions. These are complicated issues, with nuance, that require discernment and skill in navigating them.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Anxiety #AutismAcceptance #Understanding

A Timeline for Creating Social Anxiety

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FlYhe3KeJok&t=2s

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