My daughter and I played #Cribbage this morning while watching #LiverpoolFC#LFC :epl_liverpool: We will be heading out for #Softball practice in a little while and then setting in for the evening to watch the #NFLPlayoffs#NFL :nfl_playoffs: :nfl:
:ivory_boost: I hope everyone is having a great day! :ivory_logo:
It gets ask oftentimes why an #Autistic person would choose not getting an official diagnosis.
Some clarification first: * “Official diagnosis” = recorded in your file (which also reflects in your government record, usually). * “Unofficial diagnosis” = not recorded in your file * “Self diagnosis” = self-diagnosis, which typically take years of study before the person comes up with their final self diagnosis.
Now back to the topic.
A common reason is: to have an option to not disclose it. Consider the following: * There are countries which won't allow a visitor (regardless of purpose), or a migrant, to enter without declaring someone already living there; or without a companion. * Jobs. While some countries require companies to have at least 1% of their workforce to be from the PWD community, they won't pick an autistic person. (Note: this is a job where the autistic person is safe, and qualified.)
Generally, if your diagnosis is “official” (it was placed on record), and a situation arises where you are obligated to declare your health and disability, you have no choice but to disclose.
But if your diagnosis is “unofficial” (not on record), then you have an option not to disclose. No record = no record. (Of course, some will find a way to justify that “you know it and you still did not disclose it”. Though ironically, if there was no incident, they won't even acknowledge your disclosure.)
There are also disadvantages to it, like not enjoying government and NGO support. For example, in the #Philippines, you'll enjoy tax deductions (income tax) and discounts (public transportation, cinema, grocery, and so on).
So, yes, please remember that #ActuallyAutistics who chose to have their formal diagnosis as “unofficial”, they chose to have an option to not disclose. Not only that, they potentially sacrificed any benefits and support they might need later. (Don't forget, diagnosis is also expensive in many countries and still they chose not to put it on record.)
Bottom-line, don't dismiss, don't laugh, don't discriminate against #Autistics who decided to have an “unofficial diagnosis” and “self diagnosis”. They have their reasons, you more likely than not are not aware of. Reasons that probably doesn't exist in your country, but an issue in theirs.
Example, mine is “unofficial”. For reasons I listed above, there is another important reason, family. (Who, ironically, I'm suspecting to be autistic as well, but is simply of the generation that will be devastated if someone is “officially” recorded as PWD mentally.) As an #Asian, #family is very indispensable for us. I'd rather make the sacrifice because I know I won't pass it to the next generation.
Important to remember that #family is who you love. Sometimes the people that raised you...just aren't your family. Mine aren't.
Bad luck, but it's whatever. It's better to be around nobody than to be around people who make you feel awful, and much better still to be around people who do make you happy.
That was a good watch. Heartwarming. Reminded me of why I want to get out of the urban life and home; and migrate somewhere quiet, tuned with nature, and a small town. When will that ever happen?
Regardless, this is a good reminder and inspiration. While fiction and too perfect, I believe it does happen, we just have to get out there and find it.
People these days doesn't want to watch meaningful stories where it is depicted what actually is happening and real.
People these days only want 100% fiction. That makes them "feel good", where there are no lessons to learn, and to just see their favourite actors and drool over them.
00:31:57 "i'm not getting it done[..]if i imagine i'm trying to #provide for my #family, maybe i can provide better for myself. because i know, if they were out here with me, i would be a different person[..]i'd be a #maniac and i would be a #game getting #machine[..]what you're willing to do for yourself is different than what you're willing to do for your loved ones."
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