@gocu54 finding a good hairstyle for yourself, I find works best if you care less about your appearance for an extended period of time.
Aka, let your hair grow out naturally for a time and see how you like it, then with the extra hair, you can creatively "hide" parts of it to see how you might look with certain styles in the mirror before you actually go and ask for the chop.
That's just something that works for me when I started thinking about my hair and facial hair more.