@Owl @Elliptica @WashedOutGundamPilot metoo and the goverment watchlists being a real thing don’t help, plus there’s a bias that if you don’t get any attention whatsoever from women irl the moment you do it is too good to be true, therefore it must be a fake.
probably a deeply ingrained instinct from the hunter gatherer stage, as humans aren’t the only smart predators and back then there were predators smart enough to wound a common prey animal, wait for a human hunting party and jump them from the back.