@SuperLutheran Obviously I don't know your wife personally. And I'm not going to pretend to be an expert on what she thinks.
But on a subconscious level, chances are... yeah. Maybe you're right, and she is one of the top percent of a percent who is completely able to overcome her biological hardwiring. And I pray you have found the Thomas Sowell of the XX gang.
But assuming you have, speaking in generalities based off a single outlier is... not a great way of interacting with the world.